Understanding a child is very crucial in parenting. Sometimes children tend to behave like they know it all failing to realize that some habits are dangerous and may ruin their lives and shutter good talents, dreams and abilities. It is best to take action as soon as you realize your child is falling apart before it is too late. Take control as the head, instill virtues and values, offer guidance, and allow them to be children too and not small adults since this is a stage of life that needs to be enjoyed. The following are so far the best ways of dealing with rebellious children and letting them take accountability without any supervision.

Lead by example(home chores)
Children tend to walk in the footsteps of their parents or guardians. In the early stages, most children are more visual-driven. They do what they have seen being done rather than what they are being instructed verbally to do. A child who has seen you wash utensils is more likely to take that chore positively than the one who witnessed only the house help clean everything and will not take such instructions from the parent. Lengthy talks on how you used to perform various duties and how they have made you who you are will not help to a greater extent. The following are some of the steps to follow;
a) Ask them to perform the chore and if they refuse, do it alone and then reward yourself immediately after finishing in their presence. It could be a nice snack not being shared with them and explain to them politely it is a reward for doing that particular task.
b) Next time ask them to join you in performing the task and try as much as possible to enjoy doing that chore and dominate them. Reward yourselves after completing so that it doesn’t look like a trick to get them to work. Do not underestimate their reasoning.
c) Do the task again but no reward is offered but enjoy doing it and share stories. Let them talk to you and thank them after completion elaborating how helpful they have been.
d) Do other tasks severally together with rewards once in a while and let them master the skill.
e) Keep yourself busy and ask them to perform the chores on their own. Do not always interrupt what they are doing but find a way to sneak that chore into their schedule

School work.
Some parents experience difficulties with their school-going children not attending to their homework. Dealing with this starts with far as ensuring these kids have enough hours of sleep so that they are not excessively tired after coming from school and their brains are saturated. A clear mind will give them some interest in their school work. Let the child refresh and have some snacks to rule out any discomfort due to hunger or having a long playful day. Get them to do their homework as you also indulge in some pen and paperwork. Check what they are doing and encourage them that it is good for them, it is their responsibility as you also have your responsibilities and you do them by yourself and let them know that they will not have trouble with their teacher at school.

Religious activities
Most children get bored when it comes to religious activities. Lovingly explain to them about a powerful being who loves these activities. He watches over them and protects them from danger and also helps mummy and daddy provide for them that very thing that they love. Encourage them to participate in children-oriented activities that most institutions have included in their services like singing and dancing competitions, creativity work and also helping around, like cleaning and assisting during the services or mass. Attend the services frequently with them so that it becomes routine and part of their lives. Let them lead prayers at home and be good to others.

Playing
Do you have this child who is too lazy or unwilling even to play with others? First things first, get to know whether his or her peers are unkind to him or her. Whether they give that bad look, nasty words, or unwelcoming gestures. Is the only kid and has no peers to interact with and therefore lacks the capability of sharing toys or playing a game together, has health issues or a condition confirmed by a professional pediatrician
If the child is healthy and normal, start by engaging the child in outdoor activities. Play football, run to compete for a toy, or hike while you talk and share stories. Take him to children’s expo activities and tournaments and let him interact willingly and not by forcing him. With time he/she will start making friends and open up to other kids in his age bracket.

Disciplinary measures.
If the directing, guiding and counseling measures do not work, then it’s time for the family to come together and develop some disciplinary measures with the help of a professional or therapist. The measures will depend on the areas the child is doing poorly and not willing to improve. The areas may include and not limited to reducing playtime, watch time, scrapping of that favorite meal, and confiscating the favorite toy or phone just to get them back on track and know that you are the authority in the house and discipline and respect are paramount.

Conclusion
Instilling discipline in a child starts from the earliest age. Let them be children and also monitor them as they grow from one stage to another instilling understanding in them and also avoiding over-controlling. Provide a habitable environment and make friends with them. This will enable them to be open to you so that you don’t realize things on your own and worst of all when it is late. Be available for them but also let them know that things will not always happen as they wish or want. Teach them independence so that they are not in dismay or take up bad habits when things are tough.